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Valentine's Day: Historical facts & Legends

Happy Valentine's Day readers! Jagat Cinta here with Valentine's Day: Historical facts & Legends.

Saint Valentine's Day, commonly shortened to Valentine's Day, is a holiday observed on February 14 honoring one or more early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines"). The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. It was first established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD, and was later deleted from the General Roman Calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI.

Modern Valentine's Day symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten valentines have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.

Historical facts

Numerous early Christian martyrs were named Valentine. The Valentines honored on February 14 are Valentine of Rome (Valentinus presb. m. Romae) and Valentine of Terni (Valentinus ep. Interamnensis m. Romae). Valentine of Rome was a priest in Rome who was martyred about AD 269 and was buried on the Via Flaminia. His relics are at the Church of Saint Praxed in Rome, and at Whitefriar Street Carmelite Church in Dublin, Ireland.

Valentine of Terni became bishop of Interamna (modern Terni) about AD 197 and is said to have been martyred during the persecution under Emperor Aurelian. He is also buried on the Via Flaminia, but in a different location than Valentine of Rome. His relics are at the Basilica of Saint Valentine in Terni (Basilica di San Valentino).

The Catholic Encyclopedia also speaks of a third saint named Valentine who was mentioned in early martyrologies under date of February 14. He was martyred in Africa with a number of companions, but nothing more is known about him.

No romantic elements are present in the original early medieval biographies of either of these martyrs. By the time a Saint Valentine became linked to romance in the 14th century, distinctions between Valentine of Rome and Valentine of Terni were utterly lost.

In the 1969 revision of the Roman Catholic Calendar of Saints, the feast day of Saint Valentine on February 14 was removed from the General Roman Calendar and relegated to particular (local or even national) calendars for the following reason: "Though the memorial of Saint Valentine is ancient, it is left to particular calendars, since, apart from his name, nothing is known of Saint Valentine except that he was buried on the Via Flaminia on February 14." The feast day is still celebrated in Balzan (Malta) where relics of the saint are claimed to be found, and also throughout the world by Traditionalist Catholics who follow the older, pre-Second Vatican Council calendar. February 14 is also celebrated as St Valentine's Day in other Christian denominations; it has, for example, the rank of 'commemoration' in the calendar of the Church of England and other parts of the Anglican Communion.

Legends

Saint Valentine of Terni and his disciples.
The Early Medieval acta of either Saint Valentine were expounded briefly in Legenda Aurea. According to that version, St Valentine was persecuted as a Christian and interrogated by Roman Emperor Claudius II in person. Claudius was impressed by Valentine and had a discussion with him, attempting to get him to convert to Roman paganism in order to save his life. Valentine refused and tried to convert Claudius to Christianity instead. Because of this, he was executed. Before his execution, he is reported to have performed a miracle by healing the blind daughter of his jailer.

Since Legenda Aurea still provided no connections whatsoever with sentimental love, appropriate lore has been embroidered in modern times to portray Valentine as a priest who refused an unattested law attributed to Roman Emperor Claudius II, allegedly ordering that young men remain single. The Emperor supposedly did this to grow his army, believing that married men did not make for good soldiers. The priest Valentine, however, secretly performed marriage ceremonies for young men. When Claudius found out about this, he had Valentine arrested and thrown in jail.

There is an additional modern embellishment to The Golden Legend, provided by American Greetings to History.com, and widely repeated despite having no historical basis whatsoever. On the evening before Valentine was to be executed, he would have written the first "valentine" card himself, addressed to a young girl variously identified as his beloved, as the jailer's daughter whom he had befriended and healed. It was a note that read "From your Valentine."

Source: en.wikipedia.org

How to Attract The Opposite Sex

Here 5 Secrets to Attract The Opposite Sex

1. Be the Center of Attention
Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several books and nationally-known expert in the field of spatial psychology, where you are in a room (and what you're doing) has a lot to do with your ability to attract the opposite sex. Where should you be for the highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties? Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around a bit. (But don't pace a track on the carpet for goodness sake...) If you're in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the corners on the bar. Not only will you meet more people, but, according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the corners as well. Interesting conversation AND a full drink? You'll feel like you've died and gone to dating heaven. The worst place to be seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table. That hot stranger approaching your table and asking "may I join you" only happens in the movies.

2. The color lure
What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to approach you? According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood, women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why wouldn't we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant and always there." The blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship -- someone who's dependable, momogomous and can match his own clothes.
And what about the ladies? Eiseman says women should wear a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable. The color is "very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow," and according to Eiseman, projects "a little vulnerability which brings out something protective in men."
Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can't handle strong women? Try a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who aren't attracted to strong women will steer clear.
Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with caution. "Red is the color of sex and power," says Eiseman. Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of men - men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful women. Sure, you'll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks, but you could also end up attracting a guy that isn't threatened by the fact that you make a bigger salary.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away from what Eiseman calls "squished caterpillar yellow-green" which is said to repel both sexes equally.

3. Body talk that reels em in
How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex? If you're a woman, the key is to make yourself approachable. According to nationally-respected body language expert and professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a safe" (read approachable) target. How do you accomplish that? Don't take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and superiority.) Wood says, "we are strong women, but remember, we're trying toget a man to come over and talk to us." She explains, "you have to show you have room for someone else in your life."
In addition, Wood says "to be very approachable women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward. " Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt - signal you're listening to what the other person has to say.
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and toes pointing outward. Feel free to take up some space. For men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosomeout for a spin. According to Mehrabian, men should "try wearing bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing," hold your ead up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more assertive.
Body language tips for both sexes: Don't fold your arms and don't chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood, the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive emotions.

4. The power of a smile

Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a great big plastic game-show smile, just your normal "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick. According to Wood, "the smile is the international signal of friendliness."

5. Tempting with scent
Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To make the scents work for you, try baking some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume.

Aromatherapy experts have long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac. According to Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert , and owner of Herban Avenues, "certain aromatic plants exude oils similar to our own sexual secretions or pheromones. Wearing cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like substances and dramatically increases attraction."
The scent of a woman? Women, according to a recent study, are attracted to a black licorice scent. So, be sure to pick up licorice or Good 'n Plenty at the theater snack bar. And, if you're at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt, don't worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.

Why Women Need Attention

Whoever this woman in the world in general they all need attention. That was true in women of all ages. This paper was inspired because a few days ago I heard a mother say to her son.

"My son, why lately I feel you changing?" The son is shocked by her statement. Because he did not feel change in the mother. Then he asks. "Changing how mother? I have not changed at all!" The mother replied "You never again contact me. Unlike the usual" The son woke up, it seems that makes her sad.

His son lives in a city far from her mother. Usually within a few days she always call his mother, just asked about him. But last month he was so busy and a lot of work that takes thought and time. Until he forgot to call his mother. Not at the thought of the mother is grieving for his negligence.

This is a proof that the woman's apparent need of attention. The child thinks. It turns out that the same woman, not just his wife who needed attention, but her mother also. Whether it's from his life partner if it still exists. Or attention from their children or close family owned.

A man either as children or as a husband should be able to understand the needs of women around him. Women and men are different. In emotions women have emotions that are not equal to men. Women need more attention, want to be understood and respected. While men also need it but they are much more in need of an award in his life as a reward for what he did.

As a son, of course he know what kind attention needs to be handed to his mother. How he was doing on a regular basis is a form of attention that the mother's highly anticipated.

While life in pairs as a husband, a man must understand why women are more demanding of attention. For women he wants to always be someone who is number one in a life partner. She will be very happy if she becomes a priority for his partner. If in life she was not getting enough attention so she will not feel appreciated, are not considered and she felt there was no partner on the side.

It turns out that attention is a fundamental requirement for a woman. That is why women always want to be given attention. In addition to attention, women also need to listen to. The more he listened to and understood by their partners, the more easy for her to know and understand their partner.

Although the needed attention, apparently she did not want to be treated over by a partner. That eventually led her to be possessive. Give her enough small concerns which means big for her. For example, gave her a sudden hug. That would make it very loved. Every now and then utter love with her, because she not only took action as an expression of love sweetheart. But she also missed her partner say the word love directly. That would be her happy.

For you guys, no need to ask. Why women need attention? Because it is a fundamental requirement for her. You only need to understand their needs, and it is not difficult to meet. If you know what you should do on your woman. So rest assured you will be the most loved man in the world.

Compiled from various sources

Compassionate and Passionate Love

Psychologist Elaine Hatfield has described two different types of love: compassionate love and passionate love. Compassionate love involves feelings of mutual respect, trust and affection, while passionate love involves intense feelings and sexual attraction.

Hatfield defined passionate love as: "A state of intense longing for union with another. Passionate love is a complex functional whole including appraisals or appreciations, subjective feelings, expressions, patterned physiological processes, action tendencies, and instrumental behaviors. Reciprocated love (union with the other) is associated with fulfillment and ecstasy. Unrequited love (separation) with emptiness, anxiety, or despair".

Factors Influencing Passionate and Compassionate Love
Some of the factors associated with passionate love include:
Timing: Being "ready" to be in love with another person is essential.
Early attachment styles: Securely attached individuals tend to form deeper, longer lasting love, while those who are anxiously attached tend to fall in and out of love quickly.
Similarity: Hatfield and Rapson note that we tend to fall passionately in love with people who are relatively good looking, personable, affectionate and similar to ourselves.

While passionate love is intense, it is generally very fleeting. Researchers have looked at how relationships progress among new couples, newlyweds and those married for a longer time and found that while passionate love is more intense at the beginning of relationships, it tends to give way to compassionate love that is focused on intimacy and commitment.

Passionate love may be quick to fade, but compassionate love endures.

Final Thoughts
While research on love has flourished over the past 20 years, Hatfield’s early research on this topic was not without critics. During the 1970s, U.S. Senator William Proxmire railed against researchers who were studying love and derided the work as a waste of taxpayer dollars. Other defended Hafield's and other researchers important work, noting that if psychologists could understand patterns of human love, then perhaps they could also understand divorce and failed relationships.

Despite the debate, the work created by Hatfield and her colleagues contributed tremendously to our understanding of love and inspired further research on attraction, attachment and interpersonal relationships.

Witchcraft, Love Potion, Love Spells, Love Charm

Witchcraft, Love Potion, Love Spells, Love Charm

By M.S. Beltran

Looking to put a spark of magic into your relationship? Try a little Witchcraft!

Witchcraft is an ancient art which utilizes the powers of nature and the mind to bring about a desired effect. Specific combinations of natural elements draw specific energies. One can tap these energies by stimulating the senses to induce altered states of consciousness that intensify moods and feelings.

A skeptic, are you? What have you got to lose? Follow these simple but powerful ways to conjure up some romance:

Love Potion #9: In a small pot, simmer a half cup of jojoba oil and, moving your spoon clockwise, stir in 9 drops each of the following essential oils: ambergris, cinnamon, frankincense, jasmine, lavender, musk, orange blossom, rose, violet, and ylang ylang. Let cool and store in a dark glass container. Dab yourself with it as you would your favorite perfume before a night out (or a night in) to drive your loved one wild with desire.

Enchanting Brew: Pour a quart of red wine or grape juice in a non-reactive pot and warm to a near simmer. In a doubled piece of cheesecloth place two cinnamon sticks, a teaspoon of rose petals, teaspoon each of ginger and cloves, a wedge of orange peel and a piece of fresh ginger. Gather and tie the bundle tightly with butcher's string, and place it in the liquid to steep. Taste the brew every few minutes until the flavors have been infused, but remove the bundle before they become overpowering. Chill if desired. Share a glass with your loved one and toast to an enchanting evening.

Lust Spell: Nothing can spark the flame of love like candle magic. The element of fire has long been associated with romance. Before an encounter-- all the better if the moon is full-- obtain a red taper candle and a vial of rose oil. Carve your name and your mate's name into the wax with a pin. Anoint the candle with oil by rubbing it from top to bottom while envisioning your loved one. Visualize all the desire you feel for that person while mentally pouring that energy into the candle. Place the candle in a holder and light it. All the energy you have put into it will be released into the universe to take its course. For safety, do not leave candles burning unattended.

Herbal Bath: In a piece of doubled cheese cloth, place a tablespoon each of dried rose hips, lavender buds, and bay leaves. Wrap the herbs in the cloth and tie at the top with a pink ribbon. Fill a tub of hot water, toss in the herbal bath and sink into it to awaken loving energies. Even better-- invite your mate to join you for a soak!

The Magic Touch: To increase your partner's sexual energy, massage your partner at the base of the palm, just above the wrist crease. This pressure opens up an energy channel straight to the heart chakra (a major energy vortex of the body), from which springs passion and love.

Love Charm: To draw love into your life, cut a three by three inch square of aluminum foil. All metals have attractive properties, and work much like a lightening rod which draws electricity from the atmosphere. Sprinkle a pinch each of dried parsley, rosemary, and thyme onto the center of the foil. Carefully fold the foil to keep the herbs sealed inside. Keep it against your heart to attract loving energies to yourself.

Secret Methods to Show Your Love

So, how can we return that love, passion and warm feeling that systems around us and penetrate our ideas at first of the relationship? Many say actions speak even louder than words so below these are merely 5 strategies of seduction that will help you show your lover just how much you truly love them:

1. Flirt

This can be a light-hearted seduction using the intent of offering love! Why don’t you send an attractive text or email when you are at the office? This reminds your partner that you are looking at her or him. Additionally, it boosts the concentration of love to ensure that you really anticipate seeing one another whenever you go back home from work.

2. Candle lights

Based on Feng Shui, the seduction candle is red-colored and also the elements are musk, patchouli, pine, cedar plank and juniper. This secret of seduction can put back the romance inside your associations. Why don’t you fill your living space with perfumed candle lights and switch off the lights simply to relax in each other’s arms? The additional effort goes an extremely lengthy way!

3. Food

It’s stated that “the best way to your heart is thru his stomach,” this really is also regarded as the key of effective seduction of ladies too. Show your love by establishing an unexpected dinner for 2. Add flowers, soft music and incense to produce a sexy love nest. Aphrodisiac meals for example oysters, chili, chocolate, figs, honey and walnuts are stated to assist in the stimulation of the family members the body’s hormones.

4. Love Letters and Poems

Why don’t you leave a love note for the one you love? This is often published within the bathroom or kitchen before leaving to operate. You might leave a pleasant love poem underneath the pillow to ensure that your lover finds this during the night before bed time or first factor each morning. Or send hands written love letter for their work address. This can fire up the sensation of love within the privacy of the bed room too as with your relationship. Inspiration could be obtained from music or love poem books.

5. Escape

There might be lots of distractions inside your relationship for example work or children. You will find many short holidays readily available for the weekend or simply for any day. You might arrange a visit to the Health spa or perhaps a Hotel to ensure that you’re in a different atmosphere than normal where one can both relax while focusing on one another.

While using five techniques above to exhibit your mate simply how much you truly love them will definitely enhance your love existence, strengthen your relationship, and keep you and your spouse happy for a long time!

Show Your Love

You will find many different ways to state love for your partner apart from estimating the particular words “I Love You.” Usually fire in associations dies lower before long and also the sense of your heart pounding using the excitement to be together with your mate isn’t felt nearly as frequently, as well as whatsoever.

So, how can we return that love, passion and warm feeling that systems around us and penetrate our ideas at first of the relationship? Many say actions speak even louder than words so below these are merely 5 strategies of seduction that will help you show your lover just how much you truly love them:

1. Flirt
This can be a light-hearted seduction using the intent of offering love! Why don’t you send an attractive text or email when you are at the office? This reminds your partner that you are looking at her or him. Additionally, it boosts the concentration of love to ensure that you really anticipate seeing one another whenever you go back home from work.

2. Candle lights
Based on Feng Shui, the seduction candle is red-colored and also the elements are musk, patchouli, pine, cedar plank and juniper. This secret of seduction can put back the romance inside your associations. Why don’t you fill your living space with perfumed candle lights and switch off the lights simply to relax in each other’s arms? The additional effort goes an extremely lengthy way!

3. Food
It’s stated that “the best way to your heart is thru his stomach,” this really is also regarded as the key of effective seduction of ladies too. Show your love by establishing an unexpected dinner for 2. Add flowers, soft music and incense to produce a sexy love nest. Aphrodisiac meals for example oysters, chili, chocolate, figs, honey and walnuts are stated to assist in the stimulation of the family members the body’s hormones.

4. Love Letters and Poems
Why don’t you leave a love note for the one you love? This is often published within the bathroom or kitchen before leaving to operate. You might leave a pleasant love poem underneath the pillow to ensure that your lover finds this during the night before bed time or first factor each morning. Or send hands written love letter for their work address. This can fire up the sensation of love within the privacy of the bed room too as with your relationship. Inspiration could be obtained from music or love poem books.

5. Escape
There might be lots of distractions inside your relationship for example work or children. You will find many short holidays readily available for the weekend or simply for any day. You might arrange a visit to the Health spa or perhaps a Hotel to ensure that you’re in a different atmosphere than normal where one can both relax while focusing on one another.

While using five techniques above to exhibit your mate simply how much you truly love them will definitely enhance your love existence, strengthen your relationship, and keep you and your spouse happy for a long time!

Love Strategies

The first thing you need to do is promise yourself you will never make a commitment in that first 6-month period because you are literally not thinking straight. Enjoy the ride for what it is without endowing either the object of your affection or the relationship itself with unrealistic qualities. Romantic illusion, by its very definition, implies a false impression, a fantasy, mistaken identity. How to tell when you’ve been stung by the love bug? The usual signs are the inability to think of anything but the beloved, heart palpitations each time you see them or speak on the phone, the desire to talk about them 24 hours a day,
wanting only to do that which pleases them and listening with rapt attention to every word they utter. It isn’t obsessive unless these symptoms don’t go away in the fullness of time, despite day to day practical reality.

Next, consider the laws of attraction which are basically two -
1/ we tend to be attracted to people who appear to possess qualities we think we lack and
2/ we tend to fall in love with people who have qualities of one or both or our parents. This occurs for purposes of healing past
hurts and furthering self-knowledge. The more self-awareness we have, the more we can make healthy choices about which attractions we want to build on and which we want to let pass. Each one of us is perfect and complete in ourselves and in fact, need nothing outside to fulfill us but we’ve been conditioned for decades by love songs, romantic fiction and social ideals to think that we need a mate in order to be happy. We are made up of polarities with all sorts of conflicting qualities; we are not one-dimensional, black and white cardboard cut-outs. *Celebrate your diversity, insist on being contradictory, allow your
contrasts for these are what make you a complex and fabulous individual. Then you will never think that someone you’re in love with is superior to you or far more wonderful. Neither do you need anyone to stand up for you, speak for you or make you feel special. You have all the qualities you admire in others, particularly potential partners.

Until you realise this, you will choose people who reflect your opposite areas such as a confident person if you think you lack confidence or a loud, boisterous partner if you’re quiet and more internal. That way, you prevent your own growth as you need never find the confident part of yourself or any of your other polarities. This creates what is known as a `relationship pattern,’ often repeated and unsatisfactory.

Come to love as you would a wonderful smorgasbord. Let your eyes feast but be selective so that you don’t choose too much or the wrong selections, ones that don’t agree with you or are too rich for your palate. If you do take something you’re not sure of, feel free to experiment - try it, take a bite but also know you’re allowed to say no, thank you, this doesn’t suit me. In this way, you experience life and love fully but it doesn’t control you as an addiction does. For an addiction to be present, it needs to take over your life, you have to hand over your power to it and allow it to make you feel dependent upon it for strength, self-esteem and a sense of value. Whether it’s love or something else, we surely don’t want to lose control over ourselves to that extent. Always hold your own power and trust that everything you want will come to you without your sacrificing your integrity or compromising your identity. Let love develop in its own time for, like a fine wine, true feelings need nurturing and space. Obsessive love is always in a hurry, seeking standard results and cliched responses.

How to Find Your Soulmate

Many people feel that there's one person out there who can enrich your life in a way that no one else can. If this is true, how can you increase your chances of finding this person? And when you meet him or her, how will you know it's your soulmate?

1. Make yourself a better person. Instead of waiting for your soulmate to appear, make yourself apparent to him or her. Become the spectacular human being you want to be. Expressing your individuality is the closest you can come to advertising your soulmate potential. Not only will you stand out, but you'll also be doing things that are more likely to bring you closer to your soulmate, who probably has similar interests and goals.

2. Remember that your soulmate might not be what you expect. If there's only one person in the world who can be your soulmate, what are the chances that she'll live in your town, look like the people you grew up with, or even speak the same language? If you're expecting your soulmate to be love at first sight, you might never find what you're looking for. So keep an open mind. Part of the romance of having a soulmate is being pleasantly surprised.

3. Be patient. Fate doesn't work on a schedule. Your soulmate might cross your path when you're 8 or 80 years old. Yes, you might look forward to spending the majority of your life with your soulmate--perhaps buying a house, getting married, starting a family--but it may or may not be in the cards. A soulmate isn't always a lifemate. Your soulmate will color your world no matter how old you are, so don't rush into things, or else you might end up forcing the wrong person into the soulmate box, which will cause pain for everyone involved.

4. Accept people for who they are, not who you want them to be. When you've got all these fantasies flying around in your head about how wonderful and special your soulmate will be, it can be easy to look for those specific characteristics and features in anyone you get involved with. Unfortunately, unrealistic expectations can ruin a relationship, and might even chase your soulmate away. Whoever it is that you think might be your soulmate, appreciate their individuality and trust that if this person is your soulmate, they'll never need to change who they are for you, just like you'll never need to change who you are for them.

5. Weather the storms. Contrary to what popular media would have you believe, meeting your soulmate doesn't guarantee "happily ever after." Things won't get easier when you find that special someone and in fact, they might get even harder. Ultimately, a soulmate is someone you can grow with, and the only way to grow together is to face challenges together. So if you put your heart and soul into a relationship, stick with it through the ups and downs, even when you question whether it's meant to be, and you might look back decades later and realize that you were with your soulmate all along.

Love At First Sight

Ever felt a smile crossing across your face when a face breezes by you? The world seems more beautiful, the weather always perfect and your dream girl or guy the most wonderful person on this planet. If you are feeling all these and searching for valentine's day ideas or a person for flower delivery for some time now; then let me tell you my friend, you are in love.

It can happen to anybody at any place, on any day. At first you fall in love or get attracted to the physical being of a person. As it is said appearance does matter.

After all that's all one sees when it's the case of love at first sight. Something catches your attention, like her smile, his physique or the enchanting eyes.

The mood also plays an important role in sealing the perfect moment. If you are tired, sad, angry or irritated your dream man or girl may pass you by without you even glancing back. The nature conspires to bring lovers closer. Also you should be open in your mind to receive love. It's a state of mind, knocking the doors of the heart.

How to Attract Woman ~ Effective Tips for Attracting Women

There are different schools of thoughts about how to attract beautiful women. Here are some of the effective tips on how to get a woman that you can use:

Enjoy the process of attracting a woman

Quite often, men, when trying to seduce women, tend to act tense, nervous and even scared. Their fear of rejection prevents them from being themselves.

So the best thing you can do to attract a woman is to relax, smile and enjoy the act of attracting a woman without worrying about the outcome.

Be a pleasant person to be with
Women are more likely to be attracted toward men who they find pleasant and nice. So when you are going to meet a woman, take some time to take care of your appearance, clothes and hygiene so that you make a great impression every time you meet her.

However, it is advisable to desist from being too fashionable in your approach. Also, make note of some of the bad habits that you have, which may prevent you from attracting women and abstain from them when in company of women.

Pay attention to her

Most men either talk too much in order to impress the woman they like or they have an internal conversation going on, trying to figure out what to say or do next to impress her.

It is a great idea to shift your focus on getting to know her and paying attention to her. A good way to start is to listen closely about her work, interests as well as feelings and shut out all other things that are on your mind or happening around you.

Make her feel special

Women like to be praised but it is an art to do it subtly. A nice way to attract a woman is to praise her for things you genuinely like about her. Any man who can make a woman feel special stands a great chance of attracting her.

She will like to with you more often because you make her feel great about herself. Women also like to be surprised and pampered. Every now and then do something nice for her and she will appreciate it.

Meaning and the Beauty of Love

Love, love, and love. Most people believe that a love can bring a message of peace, beauty and happiness. Love is often regarded as the only reason why someone would rise up, the only way to make the wheel of life goes as it should, and the only thing that makes one understand, comprehend and interpret the life and feel life is meaningless. But some say that love only brings destruction, consuming everything shoots innocent belief in the liver, giving false hope to the conscience of the dreamer, and happily gave up despite woes wept blood, especially for those who have tasted the bitterness of love.

For poets and poets of love is beauty, love is beautiful. Love is beautiful. For the players heart that love is a game, when he was bored he would leave the love. For those who never have, that love is a dream, wishful thinking that he always wanted. For the haters, that love is just a difficult responsibility. For the connoisseur, perhaps it is the worldly pleasures of love. Everyone definitely has their own opinion about love, everyone has a different dose is also about love and even has a type and its own distinct characteristics.

After all love is a beautiful gift immeasurably beyond our power. Delivered in a unique love, suddenly and without warning. Sometimes through unexpected events, beautiful, fun and exhilarating and sometimes embarrassing events, even too embarrassing to dipikiran though. Love is a complicated thing, very beautiful, but together bring happiness to misery. Making people can show their true identity. In front of love, wealth would move slightly, wealth rather than as the beginning of power. In the face of love, sadism and cruelty will not be helpless, would not be able to force anything will. And in front of love, beauty and beauty is only a mere mask, can not make supporting factors. Love, beauty implicit in all picture of life.

Love is a complicated feeling, every word representing a thousand flavors difficult to express. Love is difficult to predict. With love one can feel happiness. Love is an active activity that humans do to others, in the form of self-sacrifice, empathy, empathy, compassion, help, obey the word, obey, obedient, and willing to do whatever people want it. Love Life is like a scratched ink impression on a blank piece of paper, love is like dew in the morning that comes with bringing coolness to anyone, love as a motivator who can motivate a person to get up or until someone can do something crazy when he fell in love . Love can not be touched, and touched the wind like the coolness, but love can be felt warmth like the sun and the coolness in the air like the morning. However, sometimes when a love can bring misery, love can also be a shredder with incredible power! Getting people to give up slumped against his fate, love comes to bring pleasure but also bring long-suffering endless. Love is beautiful but tragic.

Speaking of tragic love, love how you think the most tragic? Perhaps your own opinion as follows.
1. Tragic love is the love separated by the difference. Must be separated because the second difference in standard of living beings, which must be separated because different beliefs and must be willing to split up because of deep differences on the status of the individual or may be separated because of distance, seas and oceans or are separated by mountains.
2. Love is filled with rage and lust. Love should end up with an unhappy end. Love is broken to pieces because of the contention and resolved by infidelity and jealousy when mengahasut, murder ensued. Love that gives a lot of cases and misery.
3. The love force. Because the love that is felt compelled, forced to love someone who even hated. Imposed by the debt of love. Arranged marriages are misleading by their parents. Love that should never happen.

Yes, you are correct. The above events deserve inclusion in the category of tragic love, but somehow the two lovebirds in the three situations above can still love each other or hate each other. Then how in love the most wrenching, sad and tragic? A tragic love is the love that does not peduli.Seorang philosopher who ponders love day and night to write like this "Love me or just hate me, but spare me with your indiffrerence" Love me or hate me sekalin, origin do not ignore me.

Many people, or maybe almost everyone said, that the opposite of love is hate, right? However sy sense antonyms of the word love itself is not hate, ask why? First, we mean first what love is. When we love, we certainly will pay attention, help, love, love, help to someone, it means that love is concerned. Concern. But when we hate someone what we really stop him also? Obviously, the answer is no, even if we hate we still have a sense, even we still give it a taste. Sense of Hatred. When we hate someone what we are him also at the same time? Obviously we are concerned at the moment, although care in a negative sense. So it's clear what the opposite of love? Yes. indifference.

The beauty of love is incomparable. Love can receive two differences into a single destination that not only makes a difference to one thing in common, because the difference can actually lead to love and accept love. With love, someone will not love their partner because he is perfect but that person may receive a lack of mate perfectly and showed the perfection of his love. Then how about you? Have you found what was the name of love?

Some Love Stories Transcend Time

There's something about a royal romance that makes hearts flutter and mouths gape. As the wedding of Britain's Prince William and Kate Middleton draws closer, we look other great royal romances.

Antony and Cleopatra. She was the Ptolemaic Queen of Egypt and he was Marcus Antonius, a Roman general who served under Julius Caesar. They met when Antony journeyed to Egypt to enlist the queen's support during his military campaigns. He granted land to Cleopatra and her family, and rumors spread in Rome that the fierce and cunning war hero had fallen under Cleo's spell. The two committed suicide after Antony was routed by the forces of his Roman rival, Octavian. It's telling that Antony is remembered chiefly for his ill-starred romance with Cleopatra, rather than for his military and political achievements.

King Arthur and Guinevere. They're the original royal lovers, even if their romance was wrecked by Sir Lancelot and their very existence is still debated by historians. Regardless, the legend promoted the notions of chivalry and knights in shining armor that have fueled a million Hallmark cards and appalling, self-penned wedding vows. The Arthurian myth is based partly on historical accounts of a Celtic chieftain who united the warring tribes of Britain to fight the invading Saxons around 500 A.D.

Queen Victoria and Prince Albert. The longest-reigning English monarch married her German cousin, Albert, in 1840, when she was 18. The Victorian era is often associated with sexual repression, but by many accounts, these highnesses had a vigorous and satisfying physical relationship. The two were staunch allies, with Albert proving a canny political and financial adviser as a well as a devoted husband. This harmonious union produced nine children. When Prince Albert died in 1861, Victoria was so grief-stricken she did not show her face in public for three years. She wore black for the rest of her life to mourn her lost love.

Edward VIII and Wallis Simpson. He was the dapper and charismatic Prince of Wales, first-born son of King George V. She was a divorced American socialite who had been seen in public with the prince while still married to her second husband. Because the Church of England forbade divorced persons to marry in the church while the ex was still alive, Edward was faced with a choice -- renounce his mistress or vacate Buckingham Palace. He announced his decision on Dec. 10, 1936, when he became the first British monarch in modern history to voluntarily relinquish the throne. When he married Simpson the following year, no members of the royal family attended. The couple retired from public life, where Edward reportedly came to regret his decision. He became bitter and touchy during his years of exile, insisting that his staff address his wife as "Your Royal Highness," even though the royal family had refused to confer this title.

Queen Elizabeth and King George VI. The younger brother of Edward VIII became king after his brother abdicated to marry Wallis Simpson. He's been rescued from obscurity thanks to "The King's Speech," which won an Academy Award for Colin Firth for his portrayal of the stuttering king, who died in his sleep in 1952. Because the future queen mum outlived her husband by more than 50 years, many forget their loving and mutually supportive marriage, which is depicted in the film.

Prince Charles and Camilla Parker-Bowles. These two are an example of how love truly can conquer all. Charles and Camillla met at a polo match in 1970 and developed a deep mutual affection, but each ended up marrying other people. Their romance persisted through Charles' marriage to Lady Diana Spencer, and Camilla was widely and unfairly blamed for the breakup of their marriage. The public forgave Diana's peccadillos but did not extend the same courtesy to Charles and Camilla, neither of whom possessed much personal magnetism. Charles and Camilla finally wed in a civil ceremony on April 9, 2005. Camilla became Her Royal Highness, Duchess of Cornwall. She says she has no desire to be queen.

Grace Kelly and Prince Rainier of Monaco. Every girl's fantasy of marrying her Prince Charming came true for Grace Patricia Kelly, a girl born into a wealthy Irish Catholic family in Philadelphia. Kelly had forged a career as an Oscar-winning actress known for her coolly elegant blond beauty before she met Prince Rainier Grimaldi III in 1955 during a photo shoot. The fairy tale wedding took place about a year later. It was hardly happily ever after, however. Princess Grace chaffed at her opulent isolation, missed her American friends and longed to return to acting. Yet she was as good as her name in the way she adapted to the demands of her newfound royalty and managed her often difficult children. She was a beloved figure in Monaco when she died in a car accident in September 1982.

Queen Noor and King Hussein of Jordan. The future queen of Jordan was born Lisa Najeeb Halaby in Washington, D.C., the daughter of an affluent family of Lebanese and Syrian descent. She studied architecture and urban planning at Princeton University. Her field of study led to a meeting with the king when she traveled to Jordan to work on the building of the Amman Intercontinental Airport. According to her biography "Memoirs of an Unexpected Life" (Miramax $ 25.95), the king courted her by singing an ABBA song, "Take a Chance on Me." She became Noor al-Hussein when she converted to Islam upon marrying the king on June 15, 1978. She was a fierce defender of her husband, whose reign was plagued by conflicts. When her husband died of non-Hodgkins lymphoma on Feb. 7, 1999, she left the hospital and walked out into the rain to offer solace to the crowds gathered there.

Diana, Princess of Wales and Dr. Hasnat Khan. He might not be a boldface name, but the modest Pakistani cardiologist reportedly was the great love of Diana's life, according to those who knew her. She met Khan in 1994 shortly before her divorce from Prince Charles, when she visited a sick friend in the hospital. So smitten was the princess that she journeyed to Pakistan to visit a cancer hospital in order to learn more about his culture and profession. But the romance was doomed from the start, say insiders, because Khan's family would never approve of his marrying a divorced, non-Muslim woman. The famous tabloid photo of her kissing millionaire Dodi Al Fayed is said to have been a calculated effort on Diana's part to make Khan jealous. Diana was killed in a car crash in Paris Aug. 31, 1997. Kahn was among the mourners at her funeral.

Source: William Loeffler, PITTSBURGH TRIBUNE-REVIEW

Heart Touching Romantic Love Quotes

"I would rather live my life with you as a friend
rather than live my life without you in it!"

"When your heart breaks, tears fall from you eyes.
Those tears are pieces of your heart chasing
after the one you love."

"Even stronger than the precious sound your
lips make during your first kiss is the sound
your heart makes at the same moment."

"The only consolation of saying goodbye to
someone you love is the glimmer of hope that
someday after that goodbye there will be another hello."

"My heart broke the day I realized loving
you meant letting you go."

"I'm not blind and stupid. I'm just in love."

"Love is represented by a rose not only
because of it's eternal beauty but also
because of it's destructive thorns."

"If I were an angel, I would be a fallen one
trying to fly on broken wings, with a broken heart.
That was when you found me and taught me to
fly again, because you loved me."

"He is the love of my life, the man who
showed me what true passion is...
He ignited that dim flame in me and
turned it into a wild fire that will
never stop burning within me."

True Love Sayings

“Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” -- FRANKLIN P. JONES

“He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.” -- BENJAMIN FRANKLIN

“Some love lasts a lifetime. True love lasts forever.” – ANONYMOUS

“Like the measles, love is most dangerous when it comes late in life” -- LORD BYRON

“Love cures people – both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.” -- DR. KARL MENNINGER

“Love is not a matter of counting the years, But making the years count.” -- MICHELLE ST. AMAND

“A mighty pain to love it is, and ’tis a pain that pain to miss; but of all the pains, the greatest pain is to love, but love in vain.” -- ABRAHAM CROWLEY

“True love always makes a man better, no matter what woman inspires it.” -- ALEXANDRE DUMAS PÈRE

“Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back.” -- ARTHUR RUBINSTEIN

How to Express Your Feelings to the One You Love

Love is not about giving or receiving gifts but about sharing each other’s feelings and letting each other know how much you really care. You need to be romantic, creative, and unique. The best way to show someone you really care is by words and how your actions make them feel very special. You need to say something coming from the heart and show them from your soul. Love them for who they are and not for who you are.

Steps
1. Think about all the great moments that you have shared with that person for inspiration.
2. Try to think of words that can describe what your feelings towards him/her are. The happiness you feel when you are around him/her and the necessity you have to being with him/her.
3. Find a place where you'll be comfortable and alone and that would stimulate romance.
4. Tell them how much you want to be with them. They will appreciate that you are SHOWING them your love and not just saying it.
5. Spend as much time with them as you can.if you love someone, you should prefer always to see him/her ALL THE TIME!
6. If you feel they have something to say, do not ignore them. Keep an open mind of how they may be feeling. Remember: They are human and have feelings too. Be compassionate and understanding to their feelings.
7. Finally, just say it. Don't try to think of the perfect time to say it because sometimes it will never come out, if you become too nervous. If you didn't prepare anything to say, just speak your heart out.

About Love

Love is when you get rid of the feeling, lust, and romance in friendship. And find that you still care about that person. Giving someone all your love is not a guarantee that someone will love you back! Do not expect love back! Just wait, love that will grow in his/her heart, but if it does not happen, keep that love, it will grow in you. About Love

It only took 1 minute to be liked to someone, it only takes 1 hour to like someone and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Go for someone who makes you smile because it only takes a smile to make a dark day seen bright.

There was a time in life when you felt really miss someone and you hope to take him from your dreams and hug him in real life! Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you desire because you only have one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

Love is the Answer to Happiness

The thesis of this discourse is this: love is the answer to happiness. Love is the Answer to Happiness

Love, the most powerful force in creation, is also the most misunderstood.

It is misunderstood because of the context with which it arises: that of relationship. All relationships imply love, either an offering of it or a withdrawal of it. Thus, our understanding of love is conditioned by varying degrees of attachment and aversion. And because of this, there is an element of self-protection that is projected outwardly and becomes control. Love is the Answer to Happiness

Thus, our understanding of love is completely contaminated by all the associations that arise from it.

So what we have then is conditional love; love that is allowed if certain conditions are met.

In truth, none of this is really love, just as a delicious meal, sprinkled with some mud cannot be said to be appetizing any longer.

Love, real love, is acceptance. That is all it is. Simply accepting what is. From that acceptance flows giving and caring, nurturing and compassion.

When you see a beautiful flower wet with dew, you feel an out-flowing force from your heart. This emotion is love. It is a complete acceptance of the flower. You may call it beauty or appreciation, but it is really love.

A mother, seeing her child sleeping peacefully, feels love. This is a pure acceptance of the being of the other. Of course, when the child is awake, shouting, crying, and arguing, expressing it's being in a radical way, breaking some social convention of one sort or another, the mother's love is still there, but now it is mixed up with other emotions, anger, confusion, embarrassment. Thus, control is now exerted. A tension visits the relationship and the love that is implied in it is clouded over, at the heart of which are various degrees of non-acceptance.

When the love is uninterrupted, as in the still flower or the sleeping child, it is pure. It is spontaneous. When conditions are imposed, the love becomes something else, not quite definable, but definitely not as spontaneous, pure, and free.

What made Mother Teresa a lover of life? She accepted what was before her. Poverty, disease, and distressing situations. Her love then moved her to give, and the giving was to provide relief to the other.

Love that has conditions, that exerts control to bring the other into alignment with one's belief systems is not real love. There may be elements of love in it, but it is tarnished with some desire for egoic gain. The other must love back. The other must be appreciative. The other must return something to us.

Philosophers, poets, and spiritual people have long believed that love is the central force that holds the universe together. The physical union of love creates children. The emotional union of love creates families and nations. The intellectual union of love creates ideas, discoveries, and inventions. Philosophically, one can even say that the union of subatomic elements in relationship to each other or of planetary bodies in relationship to each other is part of that harmonious, blending, accepting energy that we call love.

Love does not necessarily mean approval. One cannot truly love something despicable. But love does mean acceptance. And once there is acceptance, there is understanding and insight, and if change is necessary for well-being, it is done with wisdom, not reactive emotion.

If human beings were committed to studying love and applying it, the entire planet would change rapidly, and instead of our continued creation of chaos, harmony and cooperation would occur. All sorts of wonderful prospering circumstances for the well-being of all life would emerge.

But as a species, we associate contention with intelligence and survival, and as long as we prefer exclusion to inclusion, we will continue to wreck our own lives and the world in general with our confused thoughts, feelings, and behavior.

When we begin an inquiry into love, then the journey to right living can be said to begin. What is right living? That which provides well-being for self and other. When well-being is high, there is a feeling of safety and acceptance, which creates happiness, a sense that all is well, good, and true and that we need not guard against sorrow.

The summum bonum of all life is happiness. It is the ultimate motive, the end of all striving. Yet this happiness does not come uninvited. It feels invited when love is present.